Pregnancy is often portrayed as a glowing, magical time: the round belly, the excited smiles, the anticipation of meeting your baby. But behind the ultrasound photos and baby showers, there’s another side of pregnancy that doesn’t get talked about nearly enough: the emotional rollercoaster that expecting mothers ride every single day.
For many women, pregnancy brings unexpected waves of anxiety, sadness, fear, and even guilt. These feelings don’t make you a “bad mum”. They make you human. By shedding light on the hidden emotional aspects of pregnancy, we can foster more compassionate conversations and provide better support for mothers everywhere.
Why the “glowing mum” narrative leaves women feeling alone
There’s nothing wrong with celebrating the beauty of pregnancy, but when that’s the only story told, women who don’t feel like they’re glowing end up wondering what’s wrong with them.
The reality is:
- Hormonal changes can trigger mood swings, irritability, and even depressive symptoms.
- Body changes can bring up struggles with self-image and identity.
- Life transitions, such as preparing for parenthood, navigating finances, or shifting roles at work, can feel overwhelming.
In truth, it’s normal to experience both joy and fear, as well as excitement and sadness. Pregnancy is as much an emotional experience as it is a physical one.
Common emotional challenges during pregnancy
Every woman’s journey is unique, but some common emotional challenges often surface:
- Anxiety about the unknown: Worrying if the baby is healthy, or if you’ll be a good mum.
- Loss of control: Pregnancy brings unpredictability, which can heighten stress for women who thrive on structure.
- Relationship strain: Shifts in intimacy, communication, and expectations can take a toll.
- Identity shifts: The “old you” and the “new you” as a mother sometimes feel like they’re colliding.
Naming these challenges doesn’t make them easier to carry.
Soul-centred practices to support emotional well-being
While every woman deserves professional care if she’s struggling, small daily practices can also nurture emotional balance:
- Journaling: Writing down worries and joys can help process shifting emotions.
- Mindful check-ins: Pausing to ask, “How am I feeling right now?” creates awareness rather than judgement.
- Gentle movement: Engaging in light activities like prenatal yoga or walking can soothe the body and ease emotional tension.
- Connection: Sharing honestly with a friend, partner, or community can help prevent feelings of isolation.
A holistic pregnancy app can guide mums through grounding exercises, affirmations, and emotional check-ins, helping them honor the full spectrum of feelings that come with pregnancy.
Breaking the silence around pregnancy emotions
The more we talk openly about the emotional side of pregnancy, the less shame women will feel when they experience it. It’s not a weakness to feel overwhelmed. It’s not failure to cry when everyone expects you to glow.
When mothers are supported emotionally (not just physically), they’re better able to step into parenthood with resilience, compassion, and confidence.
Takeaway
If you’re pregnant and struggling with emotions you didn’t anticipate, please know you are not alone. Your feelings are valid, and they don’t define your worth as a mother. Reach out, lean on support, and give yourself grace.
Because pregnancy is about growing a baby and expanding into a new version of yourself, a journey that deserves tenderness every step of the way.
Tim Williamson, a psychology graduate from the University of Hertfordshire, has a keen interest in the fields of mental health, wellness, and lifestyle.
